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You turn inward, swear “never again!” and retreat into protectionism; cut off form others, and/or overly blame self. May include a depressive spiral, withdrawal from engagement, or refusal to interact. Stoic or “strong silent types” may functionally withdraw while retaining some presence. Does not prevent future betrayals from happening, in which the cycle repeats.
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Right here on this page, I’m about to reveal to you the most common mistake that causes people to be taken advantage of — but most people (maybe you) have NO CLUE that they’re doing it.
You see,
EVERY TIME A BETRAYAL HAPPENS, ONE OF THESE SCENARIOS PLAYS OUT:
You lash out, cause drama, blame others. While you drive away the betrayer, you also cause excessive collateral damage to everyone around you, resulting in reduced access to or being cut off f entirely from required resources. May include momentary euphoria and/or moments of self-righteous victory or outrage justifying aggressive behavior. While this one instance passes, yet another one crops up, even as soon as the memory starts to fade.
You refocus, reinforce your boundaries, and take appropriate action to prevent repeat occurrences. Focused, clear boundaries are (re)established and appropriate consequences are negotiated, or the relationship is ended. Collateral damage is kept to a minimum and mitigated. You maintain your sense of self respect
WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THAT THIRD SCENARIO AND THE FIRST TWO?
It’s NOT divine intervention, a good upbringing, or a fat bank account … and DEFINITELY not luck.
Even therapists sometimes offer things like “time heals all wounds” — which is NOT how it works. (we can’t blame them though, academia is built on thinking, and as is so often the case, solutions to emotional problems are emotional in nature, so a thinking approach is unlikely to be effective.)
The truth is, there’s ONE THING that makes all the difference in emotional processing:
Your EMOTIONAL SKILLS.
And if you’re not experiencing scenario 3 REGULARLY, then you’re not harnessing the best your own emotions have to offer.
So with that said…
HERE’S HOW TO HEAL PROPERLY
(And What’s KILLING Your Recovery After Betrayal)
Think of the last time you were in flow. ‘In the zone,’ ‘lost in the sauce.’
What do you notice?
Perhaps your systems were all in balance, humming along without an emergency in sight.
Your focus sharp as you notice your working context; your decisions swift and having meaningful impact on your outcome.
Maybe you were progressing towards a goal; maybe you were discovering how something (or someone) worked.
There’s a contentment of process; you may have unsolved problems in front of you, yet your state of being is very much alive and you are able to quickly adapt as your situation develops.
WELL—THAT’S EXACTLY HOW YOUR SYSTEM IS SUPPOSED TO FUNCTION.
Flow state allows our conscious and subconscious minds to work together in the moment to make leaps in understanding and effectiveness.
Children do this naturally…
…until something comes along that interrupts flow and activates a more important-urgent response: something that threatens or causes pain to occur.
Pain is our body’s way of loudly announcing:
“I don’t understand this.”
”I’m not equipped for this.”
”This could be (and probably is)
dangerous.”
”Maybe even life threatening.”
Pain is a natural interrupt mechanism designed to shift our focus when something important is happening that we don’t understand - not just mentally, but physically (impacting something hard), biologically (sick), chemically (chemical burns), thermally (too hot or too cold), or emotionally (betrayal).
Pain makes you pay attention. The skill, quality and effectiveness of that attention determines direct outcome and impacts future encounters that pattern match the same situation. In the case of burning your hand on a hot thing (like fire), a reflex reaction (which bypasses your thinking brain, because it’s notoriously slow) is to pull your hand back. Your biology doesn’t understand how to handle that much heat, so it generates an immediate response. There will still be some damage that requires healing over time, but the quickness and effectiveness of the response prevents more damage (a worse burn) from happening. Your body then proceeds to do the best it can to repair the damage and heal the wound, assisted by whatever medical technology we have access to (running cold water over it, salve, ointment, etc).
It seems very straightforward for an example like burning your hand; we collectively understand reflexes pretty well. Emotions are less directly obvious because they often trigger event chains rather than one specific, readily identifiable thing, though each emotion does have their specialties. For example, anger arises naturally when a core value we care about is threatened or harmed; anger regulates boundaries. Two common event chains that happen in our culture are: 1). explosive anger and 2). inward suppression.
These event chains are be subject to training. The two event chains mentioned above are common because that’s the level of understanding our society teaches. Are these optimal? not always; both expressions of anger come with drawbacks. Explosive anger causes collateral damage; inward suppression can mitigate the problem in the short term without collateral damage, it often doesn’t fully resolve the issue.
The point here is that there are other options that hasn’t yet been covered in your training.